What Quotes Can Teach Us About Being Okay With Being Single
Hello, I’m almost forty and didn’t expect myself to be still single.
Disclaimer: These are the views of an Eastern woman who although being Western-educated, culture, and regional thinking just happens to superimpose upon her life and norms at times. I am in no part oppressed or anything of the sort. And if you happen to be Western and reading this then you may not necessarily understand what the big deal is. Trust me though, it is a big deal. Regardless, keep an open mind and enjoy the ride. Here goes!
In a world where being single seems like a handicap. Since I was single yesterday and I am single today. I have a feeling I’ll be single tomorrow. I can’t seem to find anyone. Love has become an impossible miracle to me now. Would you show a small miracle to me, as I hold onto hope by sending me a big box of snacks maybe?
No, but seriously speaking. Sometimes being single can be just so hard. In a society that makes it the norm for adults to be married with kids by a certain point. And if you haven’t managed to do that yet then you’re kinda seen as a failure in life.
It doesn’t matter that I spent most of my life studying, or working or achieving what I have if I’m still single until now. It just means I don’t have my priorities right, at least to those others judging me that is. The fact that I may grow old, alone, and childless is not only sad but pitiful.
Some people still ask me how the heck I can’t seem to find someone, anyone even and I just shrug at them. If I knew how the heck, would I really be still single though? It just is what it is. But the thing is, I’m not looking for just anyone. I want someone who’s right for me. And I haven’t found him yet.
I’m sacrificing myself here and sharing my sob story not to be pitied, but for it to be relatable. It can’t just be me. There have to be others like me. Single. Wanting love. Yet somehow unable to find it. Like the elusive unicorn, it seems to be for us few.
While instead, having to deal with hanging out with friends that are happily …not single. Being that single pringle and mildly pitied friend is no fun. Believe me. You said it right though, Maya.
You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody. — Maya Angelou
And the only guys who are at my age either belong to someone else or are too immature to want to get married. Some people may think that I’m being picky and that’s why I’m still single. Some even ask why someone as attractive and successful as me still is single? Oftentimes, I simply smile it away since I don’t really have an actual response to say. Mandy knows where it’s at.
Hope for love, pray for love, wish for love, dream for love…but don’t put your life on hold waiting for love. — Mandy Hale
Except when I think about it. I don’t really think knowing what I want makes me picky. I know what I want from a partner after all the trials I’ve had. However, if anything, I consider myself someone who falls in love too easily. The flip side of that being getting hurt easily as well, which isn’t fun at all.
Discover why you’re important, then refuse to settle for anyone who doesn’t completely agree. — Fisher Amelie
There are moments when you hope that the person you’ve met is going to be that right one for you. And yet somehow it doesn’t turn out that way and you have to leave and try again. After lots of trials and errors, you just decide to not bother anymore.
Single lady, the man you want might not necessarily be the man you need. — Martha Macharia
Thanks, Martha. I know that to be true.
“Who needs to get married anyway?” and “Be cool and live alone for life.” Does that even sound like advice? More a pity pat if you ask me.
It sounds like something that’s said to make you feel better. But it doesn’t. Since who lives alone and is cool anyway? Human beings are not meant to be alone. Even animals don’t live alone. So there’s nothing cool about living alone for life. It’s just being lonely. And I don’t want to be lonely forever.
Maybe I’m okay with it for now. But not for life. Forever is too long anyway to be alone. Even if what Oscar says is true.
To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance. — Oscar Wilde
I can love myself and love someone else too. It’s just finding that someone that’s been something of a challenge for a good long while now. But hey, at least there’s a holiday now for being single. Singles' day doesn’t sound so bad at all.
Happy singles day to all the single ladies out there. We’re awesome even if we’re still single. ❤
Until next time, friends.
Have an awesome day!
